flirting 101

dear on-line journal,

I'm still here in school as usual.. and as usual the computer at home is still busted. I'll have to reformat the hard drive because theres a virus that is preventing me from connecting to the internet. Went out last saturday with my friends tin, nikki, elaine, paolo, krymi and louie at gb3 last saturday. Met up with ate bev at Cena and I had a lot of fun drinking away free beer (thanks ate bev!). There were supposed to be a couple of chiks that nikki was supposed to introduce to me but sad to say, I was preoccupied with my beer and cigarettes.. Another wave of friends of nikki came along but again I was too comfortable with my own self that I didn't even want to talk with the girl.. =( Nasty thing about that was that they were just a bunch of high school chiks.. And I'm 22! I guess I just can't make the cut.. Well, there was this hottie with one of nikki's girlfriends but I guess I was too shy to even strike a conversation.. The hell!? Is this me!? Nasty.. I guess they were too many of them to even start the flirting game.. Oh my God!? I can't even believe that I'm saying this or even writing it for the matter. I'll just try to be mature about it then? Don't you guys think?

I guess I'd have to talk about flirting as the topic for this post since a friend of mine(tabby, hi gurl!) were chatting a while ago in ym and it came upon the topic. To me, flirting has always been a game. Like the chess pieces on the board, anticipating each and every move and if you play you’re moves right, you claim victory. Victory can be in any form depending on you’re intentions. Good or bad, flirting is a tool wherein you can achieve youre goals in a.. hmm... how do I say this? in a less expensive manner(if you are that good) It could lead to different possible outcomes depending on how well you play the game.

Flirting has always been about the conversation between two individuals.. It can be as casual as it can be. It is a part of life and part of our instincts. Flirting may not be easy as it seems because in every situation there would be different set of factors involved, like in a club or coffee shop, in school or in the mall. You should be sensitive of these factors or a good flirting no matter how good the intentions might be will all go for naught. First thing I do is check out myself. I guess I'd want to feel the vibe before I flirt because to me there has always been this feeling that nothing could go wrong and all you can do is make the girls want for more.. hahahaha...Ü When the feeling is there I'm all set.. Everything falls into place.. the right words, the right moves(verbal and non-verbal cues), the topic of conversation, body language.. Aside from that there has always been an unwritten set of rules that I follow. Its all about etiquette and the manner of speaking I guess.. Social psychologists say that flirting is done usually at places wherein alcohol is provided(check out my reference at http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html God! I actually researched for this.. ), to me i guess it could be done everywhere and to anyone. Depending on you’re tactics and strategy it can actually be done anywhere. I remember this time that I was driving around and I happen to come across this cutie that was walking around and I was sure that if I didn't talk to her I'd regret it for the rest of my life. I ended up asking her for directions around the place even if I knew my way around!! hehehehehe.. Even if I didn't get her number or see her again at least I did some way of boosting my confidence and talk to her. There are different and possible ways of attacking a problem. Same goes with girls.. Given the right information, style and "suave-ness"(depending on the likes of the girl and doesn't necessarily mean you need this). I'm sure you can hit it off on the right foot with any girl any time.

Based from the stories of friends and acquaintances its really hard for them to flirt. Sometimes I too share their sentiments but its a matter of striking a good conversation. It doesn’t need to be the clever and witty language. It may be in the form of a question or a comment on something. To do this you have to at least be observant of things happening around or at least knowledgeable of the situation. If the girl seems to lack the attention for the conversation or is saying "no" non-verbally through body language its safe to say to call it quits. No need to be alarmed. If ever the fate deems you to be lucky, good inter personal and social skills in handling a conversation would come in handy (again check my reference at the aforementioned website). It would deal with adequate skills in talking, listening, humor(most effective!), closing. Sometimes it would be very deadly to venture into witty and clever lines in a conversation so I suggest you always keep it simple and of course, keep it real. I usually keep myself updated and knowledgeable by reading different kinds of books or just by watching movies from action packed mano-e-mano movies to chick flicks. I mean be a jack of all trades so that you won't be at a loss of words. Try to learn from everything around you, may it be a flower by the sidewalk or even theoretical mumbo jumbo from the college textbook. Make the conversation simple and of course interesting. Its all up to you guys so let you’re imagination fly. Be creative and spontaneous because the best laid plans no matter how well planned they are usually backfire. Its just a matter of how you bring it..

I may not be a guru in flirting but i try to get around. I try to hone my skills and I still am in the process of learning new things. As of now I guess I’m in a rut because somehow my own "mojo" has left me.. bad trips.. This rut is taking to long and I now should be doing things to reclaim my "manhood".. pray for me guys..